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错的时间遇不到对的人

如果和你在一起的这个人

If you're with someone who has a far

拥有的恋爱经验比你少很多

lower level of relationship experience

那么他们就得通过你来学习

then they either have to learn through you

这是个痛苦的过程

which is going to be a painful process

他们会犯很多错

they're going to make a lot of mistakes

他们会让你受很多次伤

they're going to hurt you a lot in the process

你还会觉得

that you’re gonna feel like

自己需要小心

you're gonna have to be careful of avoiding the role of teacher

避免在感情中不停地扮演老师的角色

constantly in the relationship

试图在本就不平等的情况下保持平等的地位

and try and be equals in a situation that's inherently kind of unequal

而且

and

你还寄希望于

and you're gonna have to hope that

他们真的能够学会这些技能

they do learn those skills

你正在做一个蛮大的赌注

you're making quite a big bet

你把赌注押在

on the idea that one day

他们有一天真的能学会这些技能

they will have that skill set

有些人要花费一生的时间才能学会

Some people take most of their lives to get it

而有些人永远也学不会

and some people never learn it

因为他们不是那种想要成长

because they're not the kind of people that want to grow

自省并付出努力的人

and be self-aware and do the work

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